Pregnancy Questions

Specifics of pregnant sex activities

Husbands are also have low sex desire, when they see belly size changes, and so on (everyday life changes, bassinet, baby clothes and baby carriage purchase etc).

In any case, during pregnancy it is necessary to be ready that the quantity of contacts will be reduced a little, and also positions (poses) will be restricted.

There are 2 forbidden things for females during pregnancy:

1. Cunnilingus (oral genitals stimulation of females)
2. No any to do any sexual relations with someone else (possible infection of both, mother and baby)

If childbirth finished well, if there where no any ruptures, cuts or surgery – in this case you need to rest about 6-8 weeks. You have to be patient, because milk from nipples will go away during sexual stimulation, and naturally the womb is not lubricated well. Ask your professional obstetrician (or midwife) questions about contraception.

In spite of widespread opinion, the female gonad (ovary) recovers in parallel with breast feeding. Most probably you may have fecundation (impregnation) and as a result – unwanted pregnancy.

In summary we say – “you can do sexual activities during pregnancy and after childbirth, but very gently and gingerly”.

First quarter of pregnancy

At the first quarter usually sexual desire of females is low. Several factors have influence: smell and taste changes, vomiting, nausea and pregnant toxics. Also very common are: drowsy state, drooped and whining conditions. A nipple pain gives not very comfortable feelings for females. They can react very inadequate to any everyday situation and activity, and husband afraid of that. Couples reproach and wrong each other, and they think that there is no way back again. But it is not so bad as it looks like, because some time later everything became good.

Second quarter

At second quarter of pregnancy (4^th to 6^th month) usually the feelings of females is good. No fears and anxiety. Baby’s movement make the mother happy, she feels that everything is ok. The size of belly is very sexy, and it does not bother her. Father’s have also great influence, he prepare himself for the role of family head; this is the time of second honeymoon of couples.

Doctors also consider this period as very positive one, and they recommend having sex during second quarter of pregnancy. The fetus is finally fixed in the womb; he (she) is well protected.

Third quarter

During third quarter of pregnancy the couple’s sex desire again lower because of several reasons. First of all it is connected with physical uncomfortable condition of female (big belly that make it difficult). Second is that sexual activity at this period is painful for female. Frequent emotions changing are also one of the reasons. They afraid of birth process and this is of course affect on the sex desire. Husbands are considering more problems that they will have, and so on. Man always thinking about organizational problems: to buy all necessary for the baby (a carriage, a bed etc.), to choose together with wife maternity home in which their baby will be born, to arrange a short holiday, to help the wife in the first days after coming home. All these issues are reflected in sexual activity of the future daddy and mummy. Don’t forget about pregnancy sexual activities contradictions, which are:

1. Real threat to have miscarriage.
2. Womb bleeding or blood discharge.
3. Habitual non carrying of pregnancy
4. Fetal liquid leak.
5. Low position of placenta.
6. Multiple pregnancy.
7. Infections that will transfer via sexual actions.

Sex during pregnancy

All pregnant women and their husbands are always interesting in the question whether it is safe to have sex while she is pregnant. Is it possible to have sex or it is better to abstain. The problem has series of solutions. Some of them keep on having sex as before some of them totally refuse it. The best way is to consult with the specialist. No body rejects the fact, that during the pregnancy and after that sexual life (and other thing too) undergo some changes.

If there is no medical contraindications (as the pregnancy is endangered, miscarriage, non carrying of pregnancy, vagina bleeding, premature births, fetus surrounded flow of liquid, low position of the placenta, multi fetus pregnancy, presence of infection of sexual organ one of the parents) it is possible to have sex during the pregnancy. In some cases it is even necessary.  Moreover, the recent scientific researches have proves fact.

Here are some positive facts about sex during the pregnancy:

1. You don’t harm baby when you do sex. The Mother Nature has tried to keep baby under several protection layers: the forward abdominal wall with muscles, double fatty layer, a thick junction tissue; the womb that consist of fetus cover, fetus bubble with water (water smooth out all vibration around) and mucous membrane that tightly cork up womb neck.
2. The pleasure hormones that mother receives during sexual action are also positive for baby.
3. Long sex activity abstention for the pregnant woman promotes the negative emotions accumulation.
4. You do not need to practice safe sex or use contraceptive medicine.
5. Useful substances that exist in the sperm are necessary for the future mum: ferments and prostaglandin (male hormone) is good for womb neck. These substances promote womb neck softening, and as a result easy child birth.
6. Sexual activity exercises the womb muscles and this means productive birth activity, good womb neck action, and clear labor pains.
7. Orgasm also stimulates womb muscles, which is positive for mother. But we don’t recommend doing sexual action if it is almost birth time (a few weeks or days before) because, it can provoke early birth.

We will mention that mom’s sexual attraction either increasing or decreasing during pregnancy. This depends on the beginning of sexual activities of woman, hormones quantity at different time of pregnancy.

Sometimes sexual attraction desire with fetus development and both partners remember this period of life as the one of the best. The main idea is that woman did not feel any shameful things. Do not afraid and wait, take your time while the sexuality is ok.

Also we have other time of woman that decrease or totally loose the sex desire, because of calm (tranquility) hormone production and the body adjusts to maternity. If it is first childbirth, we recommend for husbands to be very attentive and take care of future mom’s, the sense fear (phobia) is common at this time. Husbands need to be patient to their wife’s; they need maximum attention and endearment. They say if the future baby is boy, the mother’s sexuality is high (because of male hormones), and in the opposite for girl baby.

Graphically the sexual desire of pregnant woman looks like curve: first 3 month low desire; another 3 month normal desire and the last 3 month again low desire. Why it is so? Because at first quarter of pregnancy usually females face with: vomiting, low mood condition (easy cry, not stable condition of soul, anxiety), fatigue and pregnant toxics.

Next quarter of pregnancy is better than first one. The phobias go away, mood condition is high, and everything is ok. Doctors recommend doing sexual activities at this period of pregnancy. The fetus is fixed and secure, and there is no any hormonal changes foresee.

And again at the last quarter of pregnancy we see low sexual desire. The fetus made the belly bigger, which is physically inconvenient, and might be painful. These emotional changes generate fear feeling before birth.